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After reading heaps of trash.

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Most self-help books are BS and I think you wouldn’t disagree.

They say the same thing over and over again, just in different words. And with the rise of self-proclaimed gurus, the number of self-help books out there has skyrocketed. With so much clutter out there, most of us are literally choking our brains with self-help advice with little to no results.

I know this because I’ve swallowed every self-help advice I got from others and laid my hands on every self-help book I possibly could. However, with all this reading, I’ve realized that you only really need a handful…


Become wiser and smarter each day from the comfort of your bed

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“Fill your house with stacks of books, in all the crannies and all the nooks”. -Dr. Seuss

There are books you keep on your shelf. There are books you keep in your bag to read while commuting. There are books you keep in your travel bag to read on airplanes. Then there are books that deserve to be on your bedside table to be read in the mornings or evenings.

In this article, I’ve compiled a list of books that are ideal for your nightstand. They’re short and quick but full of insights and wisdom. …


Start towards a year of meaning, fulfillment, creativity, and much more.

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I first stepped into the world of personal development when I was 18.

At the time, I was a high school kid, confused, lost, torn between fitting in, and being myself. On my five-year journey of self-discovery, change, and growth which was a roller coaster, I consumed a lot of self-help books. Most of these books said the same thing in different ways. Very few actually made a difference in my life.

What I’ve learned from reading a lot is that you don’t need to read fifty books each year like Bill Gates to truly make a difference in your…


Even if they don’t make sense to anyone.

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“Just like children, emotions heal when they are heard and validated.”― Jill Bolte Taylor

The first time my emotions were heard and validated was in therapy. Before that, I walked around with a fake mask of false positivity pretending everything was normal.

It wasn’t.

For months I had been bottling up my emotions and was stuck in my complex web of thoughts but I kept telling myself everything was okay because as a hardcore follower of self-improvement giving way to negative emotions meant I was being ungrateful. …


How to make self-improvement books work for you.

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When I first got into self-development, I was full of passion and motivation. I wanted success, confidence, health, happiness- everything. And I wanted it all fast.

So I laid my hands on every self-help book I could. I read one after the other, elated that I was checking so many books off my tbr. I was also listening to self-improvement podcasts and books.

This didn’t last long and very soon, I got weary of all this content. It felt like these books were repeating the same advice. Most of them were a bunch of blog posts slapped into a book.


I wasn’t the same person after reading these.

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Books about goal-setting written by self-proclaimed gurus pump you up momentarily, and so do Tony Robbins’ videos. But when someone who has looked death in the eye and then found meaning in life, tells you what the purpose of life really is, the impact is different.

Such a story leaves you thinking for days long after you put the book aside. In this article, I am going to share with you the names of three such books that deeply impacted my life and live inside me to this day.

1. When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi

What happens when death arrives at the party too early?

Paul…


Inside the mind of a master detective.

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London is a hub of sinister criminal activities, some happening in dark alleys, some escaping the eye even in broad daylight. Scotland Yard (the local police) are on the trail but they’re not nearly as fast or clever as the consulting detective with sharp, piercing eyes and hawk-like nose. His methods are deductive, his observations sharp, his reasoning logical. Before you know it, he’s solved the case.

The name is Sherlock Holmes, and the address is 221B, Baker Street.

In this article, I’ll take you deep inside his mind so you can learn how a world-class detective thinks.

Why Think Like Sherlock Holmes?

Adopting Sherlock…


The secret of couples who stay together

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Relationships get boring with time. The spark and thrill slowly fade until you can no longer believe that you were once madly in love with each other. However, this is not necessarily a sign that it’s time to pack things up and move on. Nor does it mean that your partner is no longer the right person for you.

Sometimes it can mean your relationship is missing one magic ingredient: playfulness.

I know what you’re thinking. “But play is for kids!”

Psychologists disagree. A large body of researches shows that playfulness has a key role in romantic relationships. In fact…


See how many boxes you tick.

Are some people hardwired for happiness and success while others are not? Is there a way of knowing whether you have a personality that will put you in this category of people or not?

Psychologists have answered this question in research published in the Journal of Personality and Societal Psychology. The researchers wanted to explore whether there were any common personality traits in psychologically healthy individuals that were absent in the opposite.

Using the famous Big Five model of personality as well as expert consensus the team generated a profile of a psychologically healthy personality. …


A 50,000-year-old Chinese philosophy.

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Modern hustle culture is toxic. And I think you wouldn’t disagree.

As much as I’ve worshipped it during the last five years, I can’t help but conclude that it’s skewed in a lot of ways.

When you’re not being productive, you’re being unproductive. (What if I’m simply enjoying the moment?)

When you’re not in doing-mode, you’re being lazy. (What if I’m spending some quality time with my friends and family? Or self-care?)

When you’re grieving, angry, sad, envious, or experiencing any emotion, you’re being ‘negative’? (So the absence of positivity is negativity?)

If you don’t have your life figured out…

Sadia M.

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